Monday, February 23, 2009
Arranged Marriages
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Arranged marriages
In our western world, the start of the perfect marriage is quite simple; boy meets girl, boy falls in love with girl, boy and girl get married. This is a different case for people in countries such as India and Pakistan, where they rely on their parents to find the ‘perfect’ husband or wife. An arranged marriage (Also known as prearranged and pragmatic marriages) is a marriage in which neither the bride nor groom has any official say in the selection of their future spouse, but they give their full consent to it anyway. The match could be made by the parents, matchmaking agents, or matrimonial/dating websites, whilst priests/religious leaders, family friends and relatives play a major role in the matchmaking process. Religion, reputation, wealth, profession, height, language, medical conditions, horoscopes, and dietary preferences are some factors that are taken into account whilst matchmaking. For most Indian and Nepalese Hindus, arranged marriages between people in the same caste (social class) are extremely important. In some cultures the last duty of a parent is to marry off their child, and it’s considered to be a failure on the parent’s part if their child’s wedding isn’t arranged. The main purpose for the wedding is for a family to be made. In some modern arranged marriages the child has a reality show like trial where the son/daughter picks their favourite prospective spouse, and the parents will either approve, or disagree with their child’s choice.
There are different kinds of arranged marriages, such as; an introduction marriage, child marriage, forced marriage, and shotgun weddings.
It is still common in North America, South America, India, Iran, and Japan to have an “introduction” only arranged marriage. This is when the parents may only introduce their son/daughter to several prospective spouses, giving them some sort of option. A forced marriage is when no input is given from the child, and their thoughts or views aren’t taken into account. If the child refuses, or even just complains they are punished by having their inheritance cut off, or even death. Child marriages are when parents marry off their children and infants, but usually keep them until after puberty. This type of marriage usually takes place because of social and economic reasons. Parents have to provide dowries for their daughters when marrying them off. In East Africa absunas are common. This is when parents arrange marriages between cousins. If an unmarried woman gets pregnant a shotgun wedding usually occurs. This kind of wedding gets its name from the fact that if the man refused to marry the woman, her father would put a shotgun to his head until he agreed. If the woman doesn’t get married then she’ll be a big disgrace to her family, and bring them shame for numerous reasons. First of all, the baby would be a bastard. Second of all, it would be hard for the woman to find a man who’d marry her if she’s not a virgin. So marrying the man that got her pregnant would just put her out of her misery and shame, and save her families reputation. This is basically a forced marriage, seeing as neither of them intended to end up marrying each other. Jewish people use a form of arranged marriage called ‘The Shidduch’, when single Jewish people are openly introduced to one another in Orthodox Jewish communities, for the result of marriage. This kind of arranged marriage is really open, and there isn’t too much pressue. Many people go for it to get a partner without too much hassle. Pait Likkhi, meaning ‘written on stomach’, is a custom in the tribal regions of Pakistan where two families agree to marry off their children before they’re born or when they’re really young, but the marriage, arranged by village elders, takes place in their late teens. Most of the women marry at 18-16 years old, and the men at 18-25. The Urdo custom Addo Baddo is extremely similar to Pait Likkhi. A Shim-pua marriage was a traditional form of arranged marriages in China, but fell out of practice during the 70’s due to an increase of wealth. A Shim-pua marriage occurred when a poor family with way too many kids would sell their daughter to a rich family, where she would act as both slave and adopted daughter (until old enough to marry a male in the family) in return of the poorer family being married into the richer one. These marriages weren’t very successful, mostly because of the lack of sexual attraction between the husband and wife. The meaning of Shim-pua is "little daughter-in-law”.
There are many debates worldwide about arranged marriages, and I think they’re very interesting. My thoughts are probably biased, seeing as I’ve been raised in the western world, and girls in other countries probably have nothing against arranged marriages and think it’s normal because they’ve been raised to appreciate it. Some thoughts for arranged marriages are that ; parents can be involved in modern arranged marriages, arranged marriages are often more stable seeing as matchmaking finds someone more compatible (50% of marriages in the U.S end in divorce), people feel that marriages based on romance are doomed to failure because of unreasonable expectations in each other. Parents can be trusted for making choices in the ‘best interest’ of their child, and won’t be misguided by hormones and emotions. Going for an arranged marriage also makes marrying someone less hassle, and brings wealth. Some thoughts against arranged marriages are that they’re a violation to human rights, you can get with somebody you don’t particularly get on with or abuses you, love marriages are more effective for promoting wealth and social growth, and there could be identity fraud. Personally I think that people should find love in each other their own way, without having people pressurizing you into anything, and that once you’ve found love you should start thinking of getting married, but everything at a steady pace. I think the whole concept of an arranged marriage is interesting, but I’d hate to be stuck with a stranger for the rest of my life, especially if I wasn’t treated right.
http://ezinearticles.com/?The-Reality-of-Arranged-Marriages&id=606
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arranged_marriage#A_culture_of_arranged_marriage
· 5 pics
· 2 videos
Arranged marriages
In our western world, the start of the perfect marriage is quite simple; boy meets girl, boy falls in love with girl, boy and girl get married. This is a different case for people in countries such as India and Pakistan, where they rely on their parents to find the ‘perfect’ husband or wife. An arranged marriage (Also known as prearranged and pragmatic marriages) is a marriage in which neither the bride nor groom has any official say in the selection of their future spouse, but they give their full consent to it anyway. The match could be made by the parents, matchmaking agents, or matrimonial/dating websites, whilst priests/religious leaders, family friends and relatives play a major role in the matchmaking process. Religion, reputation, wealth, profession, height, language, medical conditions, horoscopes, and dietary preferences are some factors that are taken into account whilst matchmaking. For most Indian and Nepalese Hindus, arranged marriages between people in the same caste (social class) are extremely important. In some cultures the last duty of a parent is to marry off their child, and it’s considered to be a failure on the parent’s part if their child’s wedding isn’t arranged. The main purpose for the wedding is for a family to be made. In some modern arranged marriages the child has a reality show like trial where the son/daughter picks their favourite prospective spouse, and the parents will either approve, or disagree with their child’s choice.
There are different kinds of arranged marriages, such as; an introduction marriage, child marriage, forced marriage, and shotgun weddings.
It is still common in North America, South America, India, Iran, and Japan to have an “introduction” only arranged marriage. This is when the parents may only introduce their son/daughter to several prospective spouses, giving them some sort of option. A forced marriage is when no input is given from the child, and their thoughts or views aren’t taken into account. If the child refuses, or even just complains they are punished by having their inheritance cut off, or even death. Child marriages are when parents marry off their children and infants, but usually keep them until after puberty. This type of marriage usually takes place because of social and economic reasons. Parents have to provide dowries for their daughters when marrying them off. In East Africa absunas are common. This is when parents arrange marriages between cousins. If an unmarried woman gets pregnant a shotgun wedding usually occurs. This kind of wedding gets its name from the fact that if the man refused to marry the woman, her father would put a shotgun to his head until he agreed. If the woman doesn’t get married then she’ll be a big disgrace to her family, and bring them shame for numerous reasons. First of all, the baby would be a bastard. Second of all, it would be hard for the woman to find a man who’d marry her if she’s not a virgin. So marrying the man that got her pregnant would just put her out of her misery and shame, and save her families reputation. This is basically a forced marriage, seeing as neither of them intended to end up marrying each other. Jewish people use a form of arranged marriage called ‘The Shidduch’, when single Jewish people are openly introduced to one another in Orthodox Jewish communities, for the result of marriage. This kind of arranged marriage is really open, and there isn’t too much pressue. Many people go for it to get a partner without too much hassle. Pait Likkhi, meaning ‘written on stomach’, is a custom in the tribal regions of Pakistan where two families agree to marry off their children before they’re born or when they’re really young, but the marriage, arranged by village elders, takes place in their late teens. Most of the women marry at 18-16 years old, and the men at 18-25. The Urdo custom Addo Baddo is extremely similar to Pait Likkhi. A Shim-pua marriage was a traditional form of arranged marriages in China, but fell out of practice during the 70’s due to an increase of wealth. A Shim-pua marriage occurred when a poor family with way too many kids would sell their daughter to a rich family, where she would act as both slave and adopted daughter (until old enough to marry a male in the family) in return of the poorer family being married into the richer one. These marriages weren’t very successful, mostly because of the lack of sexual attraction between the husband and wife. The meaning of Shim-pua is "little daughter-in-law”.
There are many debates worldwide about arranged marriages, and I think they’re very interesting. My thoughts are probably biased, seeing as I’ve been raised in the western world, and girls in other countries probably have nothing against arranged marriages and think it’s normal because they’ve been raised to appreciate it. Some thoughts for arranged marriages are that ; parents can be involved in modern arranged marriages, arranged marriages are often more stable seeing as matchmaking finds someone more compatible (50% of marriages in the U.S end in divorce), people feel that marriages based on romance are doomed to failure because of unreasonable expectations in each other. Parents can be trusted for making choices in the ‘best interest’ of their child, and won’t be misguided by hormones and emotions. Going for an arranged marriage also makes marrying someone less hassle, and brings wealth. Some thoughts against arranged marriages are that they’re a violation to human rights, you can get with somebody you don’t particularly get on with or abuses you, love marriages are more effective for promoting wealth and social growth, and there could be identity fraud. Personally I think that people should find love in each other their own way, without having people pressurizing you into anything, and that once you’ve found love you should start thinking of getting married, but everything at a steady pace. I think the whole concept of an arranged marriage is interesting, but I’d hate to be stuck with a stranger for the rest of my life, especially if I wasn’t treated right.
http://ezinearticles.com/?The-Reality-of-Arranged-Marriages&id=606
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arranged_marriage#A_culture_of_arranged_marriage
Thursday, February 19, 2009
Women in your society are free citizens.
Agree because back in the old days women weren’t aloud to do anything. They weren’t aloud to go out of the house; they were cleaning the house, cooking food and all the house work. Now day they are aloud to do as much things as they want. They can go shopping, they can find a job easily, and they are aloud to participate in political issues.
It is a good thing to sacrifice your happiness for the desires of others.
Agree because if you give away your happiness to a friend of yours that is sad they’ll probably give away their happiness too. Also you don’t lose anything if give away just a bit of your happiness to others. Like if a poor kid with his mom asks for money (1 euro, 2 euro’s) you should give some for them because you’ll make then feel happy and that’s what you want them to feel.
Two complete strangers stuck on a deserted island could learn to love one another (and yes, stay with one another after being rescued).
Agree because if you get to know that person well why shouldn’t you make a big step and love her? Its better for you because you can have a relationship with someone you’re stuck with and you know you’ll be there with him until someone comes and rescues you. But you should spend some time talking to that person, like for about 6-7 weeks and then start making plans.
It is possible to experience love at first sight.
Disagree because young kids don’t know what love is. The proper word for love is “like”. Even adults don’t use the word love if they want to say to their girl that they love them, they say “I like you”. Even though if you like someone you should get to know her/him well before you actually say the sentence “I like you”.
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